Tuesday, November 25, 2008

How Can I get My Ex To Come Back To Me


Everyone is telling you to forget him or her but all you can think of is, "How can I get my ex back. Breaking up with someone is an absolute nightmare. This is especially true when you still love and care for that person. And, it's even more difficult when you know this person is the one you are supposed to be with. But just because the two of you broke up doesn't mean you can't get your ex back . If you are asking, "How do I get my ex to come back to me?" here are a couple of things you need to do.


First stop doing this.


Are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing them e-mails or text messaging them? Are you trying to make them feel sorry for you? The needy approach rarely if ever works. If you are doing these things, stop! If you are asking yourself " What can I do to get my ex back", then you need to stop doing these things right now.


Trying to save your relationship can be a very difficult thing to do. There is always the worry that you'll make one wrong move and lose the person you love forever.
Unfortunately, what feels like the right thing to do, is often wrong. Most times we should follow the 'counter intuitive path'. When we feel like calling is when we should stay cool instead. When we feel like pouring our hearts out is when we should put a lid on it.


Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is what led you to this article in the first place. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving in the wrong way, causing your ex to pull away naturally.


The first thing you need to do is to cut off all communication. You're probably about ready to close your browser right now! Hold on, because this technique really does work. It helps you to accept the breakup and is the action that shows your ex you are serious.


During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex , you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.


But also use this time to work on a plan to get your ex back. Because without a plan and knowing what exact words and phrases to say and more importantly how to say them you probably will have a tough time to get your ex back.


During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how they feel about you, since you will no longer be pursuing them. You may become mysterious to them in some ways, because they are not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering them.


You have the starting point. And stop running around asking everyone How can I get my ex to come back to me.


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